When my daughter was 5 yrs old she was relentlessly pursued by a child in her class to the point she did not want to go to school anymore...
I talked to the teacher who said (and I quote), "I know!! Isn't it cute? He LOVES her."
After I picked my jaw off the floor, I stated that this was NOT in any shape or form "cute" and it HAD to STOP!
I was getting nowhere, so I took my daughter to the principal's office and said, “I give her permission to beat the snot out of ANYONE who touches her,” (FYI - she was the most petite little 5 yr old and would NEVER lay a hand on anyone...LOL) “and if you put her in detention I will not only do the detention with her but will also notify EVERY SINGLE RADIO STATION AND THE NEWSPAPER, and inform them this nice little neighborhood school allows and condones bullying and yes...sexual harassment....”
The result?
Guess what!! I got an apology….. But wait? Why did I get the apology when it was my child that was being bullied? So then they apologized to HER and IT NEVER HAPPENED AGAIN!!
My daughter is now 26. She is the most loving, beautiful, active young woman with tons of friends and a fabulous job, but has "that certain something" which attracts bullies. She has a much better understanding of it though and deals with it like a PRO. She is absolutely non-aggressive and now people understand that her gentle and kind nature is never to be confused with weakness!
Parents can be an enormous help to their children by solidly supporting them without being overbearing and BELIEVE your child when she/he complains about kids who aren't "so nice.”
Thank you for allowing me to share my daughter’s story!
I'm so glad that your daughter learned to deal with schoolyard bullying "like a Pro". What's concerning though, is as you said, she has "that certain something which attracts bullies." I do too! And continue to have problems with bullying my entire life. There is one SERIOUS thing that your daughter NEEDS to know now that she is an adult. Confronting adult bullies is ENTIRELY different then schoolyard bullies!
ReplyDeleteWhen workplace bullying activists refer to an adult as a "bully", they mean someone with a level of "Psychopathy". This means lacking or with a diminished ability to feel empathy and caring emotions. Instead, they feel a type of satisfaction, even enjoyment over the pain and misfortunes of others, which they often cause! Intelligent psychopaths are called "successful psychopaths", and are behind most workplace bullying and mobbing campaigns. Their intelligence makes it possible for them to mimic normal caring emotions, making them virtually undetectable! PLease make sure your daughter knows, that work bullies may be dangerous! And should NEVER be confronted directly or while alone with the bully. Here's a link to my website that covers the details.
https://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/
The GOOD NEWS is -
https://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/2008/11/19/proud-to-be-a-target-by-abc/
Better yet, There's Really GOOD News for Christian believers -
"if you are repeatedly being tested by bullying and other problems which you did nothing to cause, that God is allowing it so that you can develop the characteristics needed to be accepted into the body of Christ." - Link to entire aricle beow -
https://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/workplaceadult-bullying-good-versus-evil-by-abc/
Article linked below, details the spiritual perspective -
https://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/2014/06/26/workplaceadult-bullying-from-a-spiritual-perspective-by-abc/
Article linked below is about St.Bernadette being bullyed -
https://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/2013/03/08/st-bernadette-bullied-by-serial-bully-boss-by-abc/
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR GROWNUP, BEAUTIFULLY, CARING DAUGHTER!
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